Poi Dancing at Brigada Anniversario 5

Fire and Lights

Fire and Lights

20 Aug 2010. It was Brigada’s 5th Anniversay at B*Side, The Collectib, Malugay St., Makati City. It was a night of visual and aural stimulation, a few beers, good company, and good vibes. There was a momentary blast of torrential rain but it didn’t rain down on the night’s mood. How can it when you’ve got awesome DJ mixes, mesmerizing poi performances and Brigada’s Brazilian drum beats to get your hips sh-sh-sh-shakin!

I want to be a hot poi dancer.

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Where to find Häagen-Dazs around the Philippines

Hi Nuffnangers,

Please find the place nearest to you to avail of Häagen Dazs.

CARAMEL BISCUIT & CREAM MINICUP
ADB COMMISSARY
AYALA GREENFIELD GOLF & LEISUR
CANYON COVE
CARRERA CAFÉ
CASH & CARRY S/M
CLUB FILIPINO
CRAVE BURGER RESTAURANT KATIPUNAN
DUYT FREE PASAY
EAGLE RIDGE GOLF & COUNTRY CLUB
GAISANO MALL – DAVAO
HI- TOP SUPERMARKET QC
HIGHLANDS STEAKHOUSE MOA
LANCASTER HOTEL
LANDES CAFÉ SHANGRI-LA
LANDMARK SUPERMARKET (TRINOMA & MAKATI)
PETRON TREATS (NLEX)
MAKATI SUPERMARKET – ALABANG
MANILA POLO CLUB
METRO GAISANO(MARKET MARKET)
OAKWOOD – ASCOTT
PARCO  QUEZON AVENUE
PETRON MARKETING CORPORATION
PIONEER CENTRE
QUICK 24
ROSEBOWL RESTAURANT URDANETA AND BAGUIO
ROYAL  DUTY FREE – SUBIC
ROBINSONS BF PARAÑAQUE
ROBINSONS ERMITA
ROBINSONS GALLERIA
ROBINSONS LIPA
ROBINSONS MERVILLE
ROBINSONS OTIS
ROBINSONS TAGAYTAY
ROBINSONS VICTORIA TOWER TIMOG
RUSTAN ALABANG
RUSTAN CORINTHIAN
RUSTAN FORBES
RUSTAN GREENBELT
RUSTAN KATIPUNAN
RUSTAN MAGALLANES
RUSTAN MAKATI
RUSTAN ROCKWELL
RUSTAN TOMAS MORATO
SHANGRI-LA EDSA PLAZA HOTEL
SHOPWISE – ALABANG
SHOPWISE COMMONWEALTH
SHOPWISE LIBIS
SHOPWISE- MAKATI
SHOPWISE -SUCAT
SHOPWISE-ANTIPOLO
SHOPWISE-HARRISON
SONAMOO MART
SOUTH SPMS ALABANG
STA. ELENA GOLF & COUNTRY CLUB
TAGAYTAY HIGHLANDS
THE MARKET (VALERO, MAKATI)
TOKYO  MARKET INC.
TOTALLY CREATIVE – INVITATION HOUSE GREENBELT 5
WALTERMART SUPERMARKET E.ROD, MAKATI & NORTH EDSA
CARAMEL BISCUIT & CREAM PINT
ADB COMMISSARY
BRETTO DELI SHOP
CASH & CARRY S/M
LANDMARK TRINOMA
CORINTHIAN VILLAGE MART
DECS SPMKT
DUYT FREE – YEARSLEY
E.C. CONVENIENCE STORE (ROXAS BLVD, NEAR DFA)
EGUN (KOREAN MART IN LEVISTE, MAKATI)
GAISANO MALL – DAVAO
GAISANO MALL – GENERAL SANTOS
HI- TOP SUPERMARKET QC
LANCASTER HOTEL
LANDMARK SUPERMARKET (TRINOMA & MAKATI)
PETRON TREATS (NLEX)
MAKATI SUPERMARKET – ALABANG
MANILA POLO CLUB
METRO GAISANO(MARKET MARKET)
OAKWOOD – ASCOTT
PARCO  QUEZON AVENUE
PETRON MARKETING CORPORATION
PIONEER CENTRE
QUICK 24
RALPH’S – LP LEVISTE
RALPH’S -PARANAQUE
ROYAL  DUTY FREE – SUBIC
ROBINSONS BERKELEY COMMONWEALTH
ROBINSONS BF PARAÑAQUE
ROBINSONS BLUE WAVE MARIKINA
ROBINSONS CALIFORNIA MANDALUYONG
ROBINSONS CIRCLE CONGRESSIONAL
ROBINSONS RP ERMITA
ROBINSONS GALLERIA
ROBINSONS IMUS
ROBINSONS LIPA
ROBINSONS MERVILLE
ROBINSONS METROEAST
ROBINSONS OTIS
ROBINSONS TAGAYTAY
ROBINSONS VICTORIA TOWER TIMOG
RUSTAN ALABANG
RUSTAN CORINTHIAN
RUSTAN FORBES
RUSTAN GREENBELT
RUSTAN KATIPUNAN
RUSTAN MAGALLANES
RUSTAN MAKATI
RUSTAN ROCKWELL
RUSTAN TOMAS MORATO
S & R -  ALABANG
S & R -  ASEANA
S & R -  CONGRESSIONAL
S & R -  FORT
SHOPPERSMART
SHOPPERSVILLE
SHOPWISE – ALABANG
SHOPWISE ARANETA
SHOPWISE COMMONWEALTH
SHOPWISE LIBIS
SHOPWISE- MAKATI
SHOPWISE -SUCAT
SHOPWISE-ANTIPOLO
SHOPWISE-HARRISON
SONAMOO MART
SOUTH SPMS ALABANG
THE MARKET
TOTAL ALABANG
TOTALLY CREATIVE – INVITATION HOUSE GREENBELT 5
UNIMART SUPERMARKET
WALTERMART SUPERMARKET INC.
RUSTANS AYALA CENTER CEBU
RUSTANS BANAWA CEBU
ROBINSONS FUENTE CEBU
ROBINSONS BANILAD CEBU
ROBINSONS BACOLOD
METRO AYALA CEBU
SHOPS
SM MALL OF ASIA
SM MEGAMALL ATRIUM
ROBINSONS PLACE MANILA (ERMITA)
SHANGRI-LA PLAZA MALL
ALABANG TOWN CENTER
ROCKWELL
GREENBELT 3
GLORIETTA 3
EASTWOOD
GREENHILLS
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The Great Palawan Escape : Tamlangon Island

(28 March 2010)

Tamlangon Island

Tamlangon Island

If you ever find yourself in Quezon Town, Palawan, please do allot a whole day or two for island hopping because there are so many beautiful islands to see, each with their own unique characteristics coupled with some interesting history. This is not Coron but it has its own charm. The fact that its part of the road less traveled makes the experience a little more interesting and a little more special.

Off we were on that bright and beautiful Sunday morning. The wind was strong and the sea was quite choppy that day. The South China Sea waves were high and wide, big enough for us to feel the “roller-coaster-in-my-tummy” sensation from time to time as we went up and down the waves. There were times when we feared for the boat but for the most part, being the daring family that we are, we were enjoying the adventure.

The original plan that day was to first make a stop over at “Mansirik Island” – a small but beautiful sand bar approx 30 mins from Quezon Town by pump boat (I’m really sure how long the ride was as I lost track of time).

Here’s a little story about the place. I was told that back in the 70’s (if I’m not mistaken), Mansirik Island was the spot where a German nudist colony which settled in Palawan, would go and, well, bask naked under the sun. They probably picked Mansirik Island because it was quite far from the town and provided the privacy that the group needed.

I saw the island from a far, I observed that there were hardly any trees save for two palms sticking out from one spot and large rocks that protruded from the sand. Not much privacy if you ask me. I guess the distance from the town was significant enough.

I was looking forward to go on Mansirik. I wanted to see and feel the place. Unfortunately though, the sea was too choppy for us to dock. The waves surrounding the island were coming from all directions and were furiously slamming against each other.  It would be almost impossible to get on the island without capsizing. Too dangerous. It was disappointing but the boatman said he knew of a better island which we could go to… and that’s Tamlangon Island.

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Tamlangon Island was about 10-15 mins away from Mansirik, probably even longer as the waves slowed us down. At that point, the waves of the open sea have gotten quite big that they significantly dwarfed the pump boat. I have to hand it to our boatman who skilfully maneuvered the boat across the waves.

As we approached the island… we couldn’t help but hold our breath in anticipation. It looked absolutely beautiful!  It seemed so virginal, unadulterated, untouched…and so far away from everything. To make things even better, there was no one on the island except for a few transient fishermen who lived in a hut in a little corner of the island.

Approaching Tamlangon Island

Approaching Tamlangon Island

It was paradise and it was all ours! Just imagine, nice fine light flesh sand, a nice long beach,  some greenery for you to explore, coconuts ready to be opened, wind blowing on your face, the smell of the sea, no other travellers to share it with… it couldn’t be more perfect.

Tamlangon Island

Tamlangon Island

Tamlangon Island

When we got to the beach my parents went to talk to the transient fishermen while  my siblings and I just let loose and went…crazy.  We ran along the beach, rolled on the sand, splashed in the water, took jump shots, and acted like we’ve never seen the beach before! THIS. This was the experience I was hoping for – being away from the comforts of civilization. Being there, disconnected from the frazzling urban life, I felt so… connected to the world.

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Tamlangon Island

Going coconuts

Sammy plays with the Sand

Sammy plays with the Sand

Vicente Skim Boards

Vicente Skim Boards

There’s an interesting story told to us about Tamlangon.  A German man once lived on this little  island. He found this place while island hopping and fell in love with it. He decided that he wanted to stay there; to live the simple island life in isolation. …Then again, I wouldn’t bet on the isolation. No man is an island. I’m sure he had some ‘company’ from time to time. I don’t really know much about how he lived and how long he lived there but according to the story,  one day, his dead body was found floating near the island.  As to why he died, people could only speculate. According to the story I heard, he got drunk, went swimming, and drowned while out at sea.  How people would’ve known that is beyond. Quite odd, don’t you think? Whether it’s true or not, it sure does add an interesting little twist to the history of the island.

So there we were playing on the beach. We were so busy having fun that we didn’t realize it was lunch time. We didn’t bring any food with us but there was nothing to worry about because food was abundant on the island. What was for lunch? Freshly caught  fish and squid grilled over wood and stone plus  freshly opened coconut. (Very Robinson Crusoe). We bought the fish from the transient fishermen living there. We didn’t have any utensils or plates so we had to eat “island style” – leaves, hands, and coconut husks. I gotta say – squid, fish and coconuts never tasted so good. The squid and fish were so fresh and the coconuts were really sweet (Fact: Coconut trees which grow by the sea produce  sweeter coconuts than trees found inland)

Opening the coconuts

opening the coconuts

Eating Coconuts on Tamlangon island

Eating freshly opened coconuts on Tamlangon island

Eating coconuts on Tamlangon island

My bro eating coconuts

Eating freshly caught and grilled fish

Island style dining

I know they say you shouldn’t play with your food but if food was this fun. Why not? My sister Joanna ate squid and got the ink all over her hands. Instead of washing it off, she decided to play with it.

Playing around with squid Ink

Playing around with squid Ink

We couldn’t resist ….

Yah, we’re a little crazy. It runs in the blood.

After lunch and goofing around, we would’ve loved to stay longer although the boatman was getting agitated as the sea was getting rougher. We had no choice but to go. I must say though, it was a great way to really start the trip. I really enjoyed my time in Tamlangon Island. It is one of my favourites.

This is the beauty of taking the road less travelled. You find these little known places…the hidden gems of a destination.. and you have the satisfaction of discovering something new, something wonderful, something different, something not everyone knows about. It’s not every day you get unadulterated enjoyment of the place  all to yourself, just like our trip to this island. I bet, as Palawan gains popularity, more and more people will find their way to Quezon Town and more and more people will “find” this little semi-secret island. I guess that’s inevitable but at least we know it was ours for a few hours.

Ok. Next stop… Tabon Caves.

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To see previous Palawan posts, please following links:

1) The Great Palawan Escape (Introductory Post)

2) Arriving in Palawan and Quezon Town

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Dear blog of mine and dear friends

Dear friends and family who have been waiting for the other Palawan posts,

Yes yes… I’m so sorry. I know you have been nagging me to continue and I will. Better late than never right? Palawan will still be there, my experiences are, thankfully, noted down (yay for mini notebooks for those random notes to help refresh my memory later)….

More to come. Thanks for prodding me and telling me that you liked the first few Palawan posts!

Beyond the Palawan posts, it inspires me to write more. I wish I could dedicate at least one half day a week of unadulterated, undisturbed time to write. A time when I don’t have to think about other responsibilities, other things on the “to-do” list, other people asking/request me to do this or that, and the hulabaloo and what not’s of daily life.

But well, that’s why we gotta learn to balance it all right?

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Dear blog,

I’m so sorry for not updating you. I have a backlog of content waiting to be written and drafts of the long long over due Palawan trip to be completed. Inspiration comes in the worst of times… when I am in the middle of working. At the end of the day, sometimes I’m just too brain dead to type. That is why I’ve begun meditation to keep me going and to help me focus so that I can do what needs to be done (work) and I still have enough energy to do what I want to do (dance, blog, and what not).

Stay with me, yah hear?

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Arriving in Palawan and Quezon Town

Arriving in Palawan

We arrived at Puerto Princess airport 27 March, Saturday, late afternoon. Joel, our driver and our ad hoc tourist guide/Mr. Popular Palawan (he had friends everywhere!) was was already there waiting for us with the van which we used for the rest of the trip. Before setting off for Quezon, we passed by the grocery and bought mosquito nets, mattresses, candy for the kids we’ll be encountering in Kalatagbak, and some supplies for the first part of the trip. It’s a wonder how we were able to squeeze in the groceries and those mattresses considering the whole family of 7 kids, my parents, ate Lina (a native of Kalatagbak) plus all of our bags already stuffed the vehicle. We managed somehow.

Cramped in the Van. Behind me where the bags...

From there, we set off for Quezon town. Because of all the baggage, I was forced to cram into a little corner in the back row. It was an uncomfortable 3 1/2 hour night drive, especially when we passed portions of bumpy dirt roads. Despite the discomfort, there was something about that ride which I liked – the darkness. We drove through long unlit roads. It was a if Palawan’s sights was a surprise and the darkness the gift wrapper. It’s been a while since I’ve been to a place where the only thing illuminating my surroundings is moonlight and where the next street lamp is kilometres away. When I looked up out the window, I saw a deep dark blue-black sky dotted with stars, and when I looked back, I saw nothing but the dust stirred by us driving by, illuminated by nothing but the van’s hind lights. Trailing behind the dust was total darkness that was sometimes broken by the headlights of an occasional vehicle. It was exciting, especially when I opened my window at one point and heard the waves crashing along the shore parallel to the road we were travelling on.

The excitement lingered for a while until my behind began hurt. My legs were beginning to feel stiff and my body needed space to stretch. To make it worse, Sammy, my youngest sister let our her first, “Are the there yet?” line. I was beginning to get really restless. I only relaxed when Joel announced that we were close. “Thank god”, i thought to myself.”

Arriving in Quezon Town


We finally arrived at Quezon around 9pm past and checked in at Joavech Pensionne (scroll below for details on the Pensionne) where we were warmly greeted by Julie, the accommodating and cheerful manager of the pensionne.

Joavech is nice and quaint little place which has everything you need.  Don’t expect it be fance but you can sure its affordable, the rooms and bathrooms are very clean, the beds are comfy, and they have air conditioning. For meals, local Palawan fare is served. Lodgers have to talk to Julie in advance regarding the meals as they don’t have a set menu. You may tell her what your meal preferences are and what your budget is and she’ll work around it. What can be cooked depends on what is available in market. They serve pork, beef, chicken, and seafood but I would suggest you go for the seafood. Quezon town is right by the sea therefore, the fish you get is really fresh…and Julie, together with the ‘chef’, cook great simple seafood meals.

Joavech Pensionne, Quezon Town, Palawan

Joavech Rooms are just right if you are not fussy.

Speaking of food, she had prepared for us scrumptious dinner of nice hot Seafood Sinigang and some vegetables (I was too tired to take a picture). It was perfect after a long trip. We were exhausted from all the travelling but excited nonetheless excited since the next day, we were set to go off exploring islets and the Tabon Cave.

28 March 2010,  a Quezon Town  Sunday Morning

It was nice to wake up to a charming scene after a 3 hour night drive– the orange-y hue of sun rise, little blooming yellow flowers scattered across the lawn…and I was breathing fresh air. I thought to myself, “Hello Quezon, it feels so good being away from Manila!

yellow flowers (I forget the name of this flower)

Quezon town is little town located 155 km South from Puerto Princessa. As the jump off point to the Tabon Caves, it was given the title “Cradle of Ancient Philippine Civilization when archaeologist Dr. Robert Fox discovered the Tabon Man, skeletal remains carbon dated to be 22,000-24,000 years old, in the Tabon Cave Complex.  The town is also the access point to some lesser known spots around the area such as Sidanao Island, Double Island, and Tumarbong Falls.

We got up early, shook off the drowsiness, got ready for Sunday Mass, and headed off to the town church to hear Mass. It was Palm Sunday that day, the beginning of Holy Week. We went to buy our own Palms and entered the church. When we arrived, it was almost full. It seem like everyone in this little town was up early this Sunday.

Its always interesting to witness Holy Week in different parts of the Philippines, especially in the provinces. The main rituals remain constant but it seemsevery province injects its own unique way of carrying out this Catholic practice. In Quezon town, they anointed twelve representatives (twelve apostles) tasked to carry out a task for the Church, all throughout Holy Week. I forget what task it was (I think it was to collect donations in different parts of the town).

The Twelve Apostles of Quezon Town

Waiting for the palms to be blessed

After the Mass, we headed back to the pensionne. Waiting for us there was a breakfast of Lamayo (tuyo or dried fish) egg, rice, fruits and instant coffee (no brewer yet ). I noticed that the dried fish in Palawan is different. It’s not as salty and the dried fish that we get in the city and doesn’t have that fishy smell. Even their vinegar is different. It was less acidic and had a nice flavour.

The breakfast

It was a pretty leisurely breakfast. There was a lot of excited chatter about what we were going to do that day. After breakfast, we got ready, boarded the van, and Joel drove us to the Quezon wharf where were supposed to board our pump boat. On the way there, we stopped by the local market to buy some water and food supplies as we were going to be out the whole day. Sometimes, I wonder how alcohol companies come up with brands for their cheap alcohol because while buying water, I saw this…

Yah man, the elixir for vigor.

My sister who was there as well, started joking around with the owner of the store…

Joanna: Sino po umiinom niyan? (who drinks that?)
Sales lady : Ah! babae, lalaki, matatanda. (oh! Women, men, older people)
Joanna : Anong ginagawa nila pagkatapos? (What do they do after??)
Papa: Natutulog! (THEY SLEEP!!)
Sales lady : *tries very not to laugh*

I, on the other hand, could not stop myself from laughing! If you knew my sister, you’d know how she would’ve looked and sounded while asking the question – with that mischievous but clueless look and almost monotone nonchalant tone of voice. Crazy, crazy girl.

We got what we needed we went straight for the warf where the reserved pump boat was waiting. If you stay at Joavech’s, Julie and the staff can help you book a boat for your trip to the Tabon Caves and the surrounding islands. Julie was able to reserve the municipal boat for us. The municipal boat looked slightly bigger and better maintained than the other pump boats. I would think that they reserve the use of that boat for some important people and politicians therefore my family and I felt very V.I.P.(either that or Julie is just really good and goes the extra mile for her lodgers!)

We excitedly boarded the boat and got ready for our destinations – The Tabon Caves and the “Secret Island I refuse to name”.

The municipal boat of Quezon town

Quezon Town Wharf

Travel Tips and Tidbits:

Joavech’s Pensionne
Manager: Julie Abiog-Respicio
Mobile number : +63-9194040054
Postal address: Joavech Cafe & Pensionne, Poblacion, Quezon
Email : vjmarespi@yahoo.com

Room rate : approx Php 600/night
Meals : Php 90-150/meal

Boat : approx 2000/whole day

How to get to Quezon town:
(Travel time: estimated 3-4 hours)
1) Rented Van (contact me/leave a message if you want to get Joel’s contact #)
2) Bus – find them on Malvar St. near Puerto Princessa City Public Market.

For more info you may call:
Municipal Tourism Office of Quezon : 09182390296

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The Great Palawan Escape

Welcome to Palawan (taken at the Tabon Caves)

Seven Days in Palawan

…was not enough to really experience everything that this beautiful island has to offer. One will need to stay about a month and a half or two. There is a whole myriad of things to see and experience – rich forests (some remain unexplored), high mountains, clean flowing rivers and waterfalls, placid lakes, enormous caves, endangered wildlife conservation, bursting marine life, and of course, absolutely beautiful beaches whatever part of Palawan you’re in. If want to go nature tripping, adventure seeking, get a taste of some geological history, and have an out-of-the-box experience…go to Palawan.

“The Great Palawan Escape”, that’s what I call it because it really felt like one. We were away from the city, sometimes without cellphone signal, sometimes without electricity, practically no internet during the whole stay and only a few people knew where I was going off to (I liked the idea of “disappearing” for a while). For seven days my family and I went on an adventure and travelled to different points in Palawan. Being lovers of the road less-travelled, we decided not to go to two of most popular destinations in Palawan - El Nido and Coron. Both are undoubtly very beautiful places and are definitely on my list of spots to travel to, but on this trip, we went elsewhere..(be jealous). Along the way, we made some awesome discoveries, had some cool out-of-the-box experiences and met people with interesting stories to tell about how Palawan is evolving into a place where people are very keen on Sustainable Development (I loved this very much but we’ll talk about that some other time).

Our itinerary was not for the dainty or fussy. My mom, the one behind it all, made sure it would unforgettable for the whole family. When she said, “Make sure your bags are easy to carry around. I prefer you use a backpack if you have one. Bring comfy clothes and rubber shoes”, and wouldn’t tell us the exact itinerary, I knew we were in for something. And “SOMETHING” it was – 7 beaches, 6 islands, 2 (well.. more than) caves, 2 rivers, 1 waterfall, sleeping in a run-down three walled bahay kubo, turbulent seas, mountains, forests, rocky unpaved dirt roads, boat rides.. we hopped from the east side to the west side… in seven days. She kept us constantly wondering about what was coming next.

It was a really awesome trip. There was a lot that we saw, experienced, and definitely a lot learned (not to mention, we had SO MUCH FUN). I shall tell the stories little by little, by destination. For now, I’ll share with you the itinerary…

The Palawan Itinerary

The Itinerary
(Please stay “tuned” for the upcoming posts)

1) Quezon Town : 27 March – 29 March
Highlights : Tabon Cave, Tamlangon Island

2) Kalatagbak : 29 March – 30 March
Highlights : A beautiful spot on the top of the mountains called Balugo, Bagong Pag-asa Foundation, The Bristol family

3) Narra : 30 March – 31 March
Highlights : Crystal Paradise, Rasa Island

*Road to Sabang – 31 March
Highlight : Estrella Falls

4) Sabang : 31 March – 1 April
The Underground River, The Mangrove Forest, Taraw Resort

5) WWF Boat : 1 April – 3 April
Honda Bay, Snake Island, Starfish Island, Pandan Island (we wanted to go to Turtle Bay the seas would not permit).

If you want to go trip like this, don’t forget…

- Bring lots of Sunblock
- (!) Citronella Oil to ward off the mosquitoes and prevent Malaria.
(You can choose to use Off lotion or drink Malaria Prophilaxis, both of which I don’t prefer)
Acapulco ointment (for insect bites, particularly Nik Nik a.k.a. sand mites)

You’ll need : a trusty driver and rent a van service.

We hired Kuya Joel. He’s a really fun, cool, and quirky guy who loves cracking jokes, telling stories, and joining in on the adventures. Beyond merely knowing how to get to one place to the other, he knows a lot about Palawan…Not to mention he has friends almost everywhere we went (very helpful when you need little extra help from other people)

Name : Joel Danelles
Number: Please contact me if you want to get it.

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Facing the Fear

(This post is dedicated to people who have held back on decisions involving the things they really want)
Many of us (if not all) like talking about what we want to do with our lives. We talk about our dream jobs, the places we want to go to, hobbies we want to take up, etc. Some have that perennial urge to paint, dance, sing or act while some have ambitions of owning a business. The list goes on. There are a handful of people who have been able to decide to venture out and make their wants and dreams happen while many of us, at the end of the day, find that we never leave the point of dreaming. I do recognize that sometimes these aspirations that we loosely call “dreams” are merely whims. But what about those dreams which much more than mere fancy? Those dreams that deep down, we know really want but have been holding back on? What been stopping us?
Holding Back
I have been holding back on something I know I really want. When I discovered that the existence of this “thing”, I felt a jolt. Its something I’ve always hoped to find. (When I was in high school, I wondered what I could do in the future that could help me create a living. “Living” – earning well while creating real value for others.). I got excited and elated knowing that its possible and real. I started to envision making it happen. To take things a step further, I decided to take action. I wanted to measure up. Everything I felt needed to be learned, I tried studying. I’ve been trying my best since.
However as I went on, I found myself hesitating. Before I knew it, I unconsciously created one hundred and one reasons for me not to proceed… at least not yet. Some of the reasons are valid since there were things that were needed to be taken care of before I could freely give this dream a chance of materializing. Yet as the days passed, the reasons began turning into excuses. I’ve told myself “I’ll do it today” over and over. But its been months since I’ve actually moved forward.
Its absurd isn’t it. I know there are others out there who can relate. What stops a person from deciding to take the leap?
Fear.
Fear that it may not happen. Fear of failure. Fear of mistakes. Fear of many other intangible uncertainties. Should we let these fears stop us? The reality is, it has stopped many people when it shouldn’t (that includes me). Thanks to a recent wake up call and a random eureka moment, I’ve been able to finally painfully admit to myself that I’m actually afraid. It was at that point that the central reason for my reluctance became clear to me (its something very personal which I shall not discuss here). It was only after accepting the fear that I was able to see exactly what was happening to me.
In my search for finding ways to deal with this, I picked up a book which my grandfather has repeatedly asked me to read. Its one of his favorites – “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living” by Dale Carnegie. It is , practical, real, simple, straight to the point, brilliant…and it really helped me put things in perspective.
Dealing with Fear
According to Dale Carnegie, in dealing with worry and fear, there is a simple yet powerful formula that we can use.
1)      Ask yourself, “What is the worst that can possibly happen?”
My version : In this situation, what is it that you are afraid of the most? What’s the worst that may come out of that thing you fear if it does happen?

2)      Prepare to accept it if you have to.
My version: Accept it. Accept that yes, it could definitely be a possibility. Come to terms with this. Don’t fight it.
3)      Then calmly proceed to improve on the worst
My version : So, if it happens, what are the possibilities beyond it? Or what about the good things that can happen despite this happening? It’s not the end of the world right?

Some fears are irrational while some are some fears are valid. Whatever the case, focusing on the fear will always hinder you from taking action towards your goal. (I guess thats what happened to me). Face the fear by acknowledge it, not nurturing it. I believe that what makes a man brave is not in being fearless (there is no such things as fearless anyway), but in being able to face the fear and overcome it. Overcome it by accepting it. There’s liberation in acceptance.
After you’ve recognized the worst case scenario, do the opposite and paint the ideal picture in your head – The picture of what you want, how you want it, and how good it can be and will be. It helps balance self- preparation with your hoped outcome. When I did this, I felt a calm which I haven’t felt in a long time. This is one process I’ll always remember and apply to my life
What doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger.
After this, the uncertainty doesn’t seem so daunting anymore.
I’m going for it.

My hope is that this post is found by people who, as I have, are experiencing uncertainty and fear about a certain decisions. May this brief post at least inspire them to seriously face their fears, get rid of worry, take action, and take the risk.

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